Sexy and Dirty Never Have I Ever Questions

The Sexy and Dirty category is for adult groups who want to turn up the heat. These prompts are explicit, flirty, and designed for close friends or couples who are comfortable with each other. Not safe for work, family, or first-time meetups - this one is strictly for the inner circle.

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Sexy Never Have I Ever Questions - Dirty Adults-Only Set

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Sexy and Dirty questions are best for playing partner or friends who is open to tell their dirty secrets.

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How to Play the Adult Version

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1. Close friends only

This set is for adult groups who know and trust each other. Skip it with strangers, coworkers, or family.

2. Agree on pass rules

Before starting, agree that anyone can pass on any question without being pressured. Consent comes first.

3. Play for fingers or drinks

Put a finger down if you have done it, or drink a sip. Adults only - drink responsibly.

4. Share stories if you want

Stories are optional in this mode. Some prompts are too private to explain - that is okay.

All Sexy and Dirty Never Have I Ever Questions

The full adults-only list. You have been warned - this is the spicy set. 18+ only.

1.Ich habe noch nie adjusted my buttons based on who's in the room.
2.Ich habe noch nie asked a friend to check me for an STD.
3.Ich habe noch nie asked someone for a prom date.
4.Ich habe noch nie asked someone to marry me.
5.Ich habe noch nie been a clingy boyfriend.
6.Ich habe noch nie been attracted to someone more than 10 years older or younger than me.
7.Ich habe noch nie been in a 69 s*x position.
8.Ich habe noch nie been inside Victoria Secret.
9.Ich habe noch nie been interrupted while having s*x.
10.Ich habe noch nie been into a s*x shop.
11.Ich habe noch nie been kicked out after having s*x.
12.Ich habe noch nie been on a blind date.
13.Ich habe noch nie been on a double date with my parents.
14.Ich habe noch nie been playful with whipped cream.
15.Ich habe noch nie been proposed to.
16.Ich habe noch nie been serenaded to.
17.Ich habe noch nie been s*xually aroused looking at myself.
18.Ich habe noch nie been shocked by a s*x story.
19.Ich habe noch nie been skinny dipping.
20.Ich habe noch nie been swinging.
21.Ich habe noch nie been tied up during s*x.
22.Ich habe noch nie been to a drive-in movie.
23.Ich habe noch nie been to a strip club.
24.Ich habe noch nie been to an adult store.
25.Ich habe noch nie been told I'm bad at s*x.
26.Ich habe noch nie been told what to do during s*x.
27.Ich habe noch nie been walked in on while having s*x.
28.Ich habe noch nie been watched by an animal during s*x.
29.Ich habe noch nie been with more than one person in a day.
30.Ich habe noch nie bitten someone's ear.
31.Ich habe noch nie blindfolded my partner during s*x.
32.Ich habe noch nie bought a girl heart box of chocolates on Valentine's Day.
33.Ich habe noch nie bought a pregnancy test.
34.Ich habe noch nie bought a s*x toy.
35.Ich habe noch nie bought lingerie for someone.
36.Ich habe noch nie bought lingerie.
37.Ich habe noch nie bought lube.
38.Ich habe noch nie bought someone else a s*x toy.
39.Ich habe noch nie broken a condom during s*x.
40.Ich habe noch nie cat-called a girl.
41.Ich habe noch nie changed my mind about having s*x with someone after seeing them naked.
42.Ich habe noch nie cheated on a girlfriend.
43.Ich habe noch nie complimented someone's genitals.
44.Ich habe noch nie considered being a stripper.
45.Ich habe noch nie cried after s*x.
46.Ich habe noch nie cried during s*x.
47.Ich habe noch nie cut myself while shaving my pubes.
48.Ich habe noch nie dated a stripper.
49.Ich habe noch nie dated more than one person at once.
50.Ich habe noch nie done a body shot.
51.Ich habe noch nie done it in a public place.
52.Ich habe noch nie done it more than 2 times in a day.
53.Ich habe noch nie done it outside.
54.Ich habe noch nie done it with a friend's sister.
55.Ich habe noch nie drank so much that I fell asleep while having s*x.
56.Ich habe noch nie dreamed about some friends having s*x.
57.Ich habe noch nie dressed as a woman.
58.Ich habe noch nie dressed up as a naughty schoolgirl.
59.Ich habe noch nie eaten during s*x.
60.Ich habe noch nie eaten food off of someone's naked body.
61.Ich habe noch nie exposed myself because of a dare.
62.Ich habe noch nie exposed myself because someone asked.
63.Ich habe noch nie faked an orgasm.
64.Ich habe noch nie faked multiple orgasms.
65.Ich habe noch nie fallen asleep while having s*x.
66.Ich habe noch nie fantasied about a three-some.
67.Ich habe noch nie fantasied about having s*x with a teacher.
68.Ich habe noch nie fantasized about s*x with someone providing me a service.
69.Ich habe noch nie fantasized about someone else.
70.Ich habe noch nie farted while having s*x.
71.Ich habe noch nie fingered a man.
72.Ich habe noch nie fingered a partner in a public place.
73.Ich habe noch nie fingered a woman.
74.Ich habe noch nie finished in the same condom more than once.
75.Ich habe noch nie finished myself off after s*x because I wasn't satisfied.
76.Ich habe noch nie flirted with a boss in an attempt to get a promotion.
77.Ich habe noch nie flirted with someone in front of my partner.
78.Ich habe noch nie flirted with someone more than 10 years older than me.
79.Ich habe noch nie flirted with someone.
80.Ich habe noch nie fooled around in a sibling's room.
81.Ich habe noch nie gently whispered in someone's ear.
82.Ich habe noch nie given a bl*wjob.
83.Ich habe noch nie given a guy a fake number.
84.Ich habe noch nie given a hand-job.
85.Ich habe noch nie given a rainbow kiss.
86.Ich habe noch nie given anal s*x.
87.Ich habe noch nie given money for a one-night stand.
88.Ich habe noch nie given my genital a nickname.
89.Ich habe noch nie given scratch or bite marks during s*x.
90.Ich habe noch nie given someone else a hickey.
91.Ich habe noch nie gone commando.
92.Ich habe noch nie gone home with someone because I couldn't find anyone better.
93.Ich habe noch nie gone to church in an attempt to meet someone.
94.Ich habe noch nie got curious and used viagra.
95.Ich habe noch nie got rejected for a prom date.
96.Ich habe noch nie gotten sperm in my eye.
97.Ich habe noch nie gotten sperm in my hair.
98.Ich habe noch nie gotten sperm in someone's eye.
99.Ich habe noch nie gotten sperm in someone's hair.
100.Ich habe noch nie groped my partner in a public place.
101.Ich habe noch nie groped my partner in a public swimming pool.
102.Ich habe noch nie had a bedroom injury.
103.Ich habe noch nie had a boyfriend.
104.Ich habe noch nie had a cheesy pick-up like work on me.
105.Ich habe noch nie had a crush on a friend's sibling.
106.Ich habe noch nie had a crush on a teacher.
107.Ich habe noch nie had a crush on my best friend's guy.
108.Ich habe noch nie had a date with someone I met on an app.
109.Ich habe noch nie had a dream about someone I liked.
110.Ich habe noch nie had a finger in my bum.
111.Ich habe noch nie had a foursome with three other men.
112.Ich habe noch nie had a friend with benefits.
113.Ich habe noch nie had a full-body massage.
114.Ich habe noch nie had a girlfriend.
115.Ich habe noch nie had a hickey.
116.Ich habe noch nie had a one night stand.
117.Ich habe noch nie had a partner with a s*x piercing.
118.Ich habe noch nie had a pregnancy scare.
119.Ich habe noch nie had a quickie.
120.Ich habe noch nie had a scratch or bite marks after s*x.
121.Ich habe noch nie had a threesome.
122.Ich habe noch nie had a vaginal orgasm.
123.Ich habe noch nie had aches and pains due to s*x.
124.Ich habe noch nie had an anal orgasm.
125.Ich habe noch nie had breakfast in bed.
126.Ich habe noch nie had fantasies about a friend while having s*x with my partner.
127.Ich habe noch nie had fantasies about a friend.
128.Ich habe noch nie had fantasies about someone else while having s*x with my partner.
129.Ich habe noch nie had flirted with someone to make someone jealous.
130.Ich habe noch nie had food eaten off my naked body.
131.Ich habe noch nie had kinky s*x.
132.Ich habe noch nie had more than 10 s*xual partners.
133.Ich habe noch nie had my parents ask if I am a virgin.
134.Ich habe noch nie had my partner get stuck in me.
135.Ich habe noch nie had oral s*x someone I just met.
136.Ich habe noch nie had s*x at a wedding.
137.Ich habe noch nie had s*x before the age of 16.
138.Ich habe noch nie had s*x before the age of 17.
139.Ich habe noch nie had s*x before the age of 18.
140.Ich habe noch nie had s*x before the age of 19.
141.Ich habe noch nie had s*x before the age of 20.
142.Ich habe noch nie had s*x before the age of 25.
143.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in a car.
144.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in a closet.
145.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in a friend's bed without telling them.
146.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in a friend's house.
147.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in a hot tub.
148.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in a library.
149.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in a position other than missionary.
150.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in a sauna.
151.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in another continent.
152.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in another country.
153.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in my parent's bed.
154.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in my parents' bed and not telling them.
155.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in nature.
156.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in public.
157.Ich habe noch nie had s*x in the doggy-style position.
158.Ich habe noch nie had s*x multiple times in one night.
159.Ich habe noch nie had s*x on a first date.
160.Ich habe noch nie had s*x on a kitchen counter.
161.Ich habe noch nie had s*x on a sofa.
162.Ich habe noch nie had s*x on a train.
163.Ich habe noch nie had s*x on my period.
164.Ich habe noch nie had s*x on the ground next to or in front of a bed.
165.Ich habe noch nie had s*x that lasted over an hour.
166.Ich habe noch nie had s*x that lasted over five minutes.
167.Ich habe noch nie had s*x that lasted over ten minutes.
168.Ich habe noch nie had s*x that lasted under a minute.
169.Ich habe noch nie had s*x that lasted under five minutes.
170.Ich habe noch nie had s*x while on the phone with someone else.
171.Ich habe noch nie had s*x while standing up.
172.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with a fat person.
173.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with a friend of a parent.
174.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with a friend's ex.
175.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with a married person.
176.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with a stripper.
177.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with an ex after a break-up.
178.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with more than ten people in the last year.
179.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with more than three people in a single night.
180.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with more than three people in a week.
181.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with my best friend's partner.
182.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with my socks on.
183.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with someone I didn't find attractive.
184.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with someone in drag.
185.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with someone in this room.
186.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with someone on their period.
187.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with someone out of pity.
188.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with someone to make someone jealous.
189.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with someone twenty years older.
190.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with someone watching.
191.Ich habe noch nie had s*x with the twins.
192.Ich habe noch nie had s*x without a condom.
193.Ich habe noch nie had s*x without having an orgasm.
194.Ich habe noch nie had s*x without protection.
195.Ich habe noch nie had s*x.
196.Ich habe noch nie had s*xual wishes I wouldn't discuss with my partner.
197.Ich habe noch nie had someone lick my foot.
198.Ich habe noch nie had someone strip for me.
199.Ich habe noch nie had to find an excuse for a cum stain.
200.Ich habe noch nie had to shave to get rid of crabs.
201.Ich habe noch nie had to visit the hospital due to a s*xual injury.
202.Ich habe noch nie heard my name during s*x.
203.Ich habe noch nie heard someone else having s*x.
204.Ich habe noch nie held the head of my partner while they go down on me.
205.Ich habe noch nie hid a hickey with a turtleneck.
206.Ich habe noch nie hidden messages from my partner.
207.Ich habe noch nie hidden s*xual messages from my partner.
208.Ich habe noch nie hit someone with my p*nis.
209.Ich habe noch nie injured myself because of s*x.
210.Ich habe noch nie injured myself while masturbating.
211.Ich habe noch nie intentionally had loud s*x so someone could hear.
212.Ich habe noch nie kicked someone out after having s*x.
213.Ich habe noch nie kiss and told.
214.Ich habe noch nie kissed another girl.
215.Ich habe noch nie kissed another guy.
216.Ich habe noch nie kissed on a first date.
217.Ich habe noch nie kissed someone because of a dare.
218.Ich habe noch nie laughed when seeing someone's genitals.
219.Ich habe noch nie licked someone's ear.
220.Ich habe noch nie licked someone's foot.
221.Ich habe noch nie lied about having s*x.
222.Ich habe noch nie lied about my s*xual performance.
223.Ich habe noch nie lied about my virginity.
224.Ich habe noch nie lied about the appearance of my genitals.
225.Ich habe noch nie lied about the number of people I have slept with.
226.Ich habe noch nie lied to my friends about having s*x.
227.Ich habe noch nie limped after s*x.
228.Ich habe noch nie looked at my phone during s*x.
229.Ich habe noch nie looked at myself while having s*x.
230.Ich habe noch nie looked at myself while masturbating.
231.Ich habe noch nie looked at naughty pictures.
232.Ich habe noch nie looked on Google for how to break up a friend.
233.Ich habe noch nie looked on Google for how to break up with someone.
234.Ich habe noch nie looked on Google for relationship advice.
235.Ich habe noch nie looked on Google for s*x advice.
236.Ich habe noch nie looked on google for side effects of masturbating.
237.Ich habe noch nie lost something in one of my holes.
238.Ich habe noch nie made a s*x tape.
239.Ich habe noch nie made any naughty videos.
240.Ich habe noch nie made Barbie and Ken do it.
241.Ich habe noch nie made out with a stranger.
242.Ich habe noch nie made out with someone in a hot tub.
243.Ich habe noch nie masturbated at a friend's house.
244.Ich habe noch nie masturbated at a partner's house.
245.Ich habe noch nie masturbated at my grandparent's house.
246.Ich habe noch nie masturbated at work.
247.Ich habe noch nie masturbated in public.
248.Ich habe noch nie masturbated in the bath.
249.Ich habe noch nie masturbated in the library.
250.Ich habe noch nie masturbated more than once on the same day.
251.Ich habe noch nie masturbated on a bus.
252.Ich habe noch nie masturbated on a plane.
253.Ich habe noch nie masturbated using a fruit.
254.Ich habe noch nie masturbated while lying next to my sleeping partner.
255.Ich habe noch nie masturbated while my dog watched.
256.Ich habe noch nie masturbated while on the phone to someone.
257.Ich habe noch nie measured the length of my partner's p*nis.
258.Ich habe noch nie measured the length of my p*nis.
259.Ich habe noch nie not worn a bra in public.
260.Ich habe noch nie opened the door while baked.
261.Ich habe noch nie owned a Playboy.
262.Ich habe noch nie paid a stripper.
263.Ich habe noch nie paid for a lap dance.
264.Ich habe noch nie paid for s*x.
265.Ich habe noch nie passed second base.
266.Ich habe noch nie peeked at someone in the shower.
267.Ich habe noch nie peeked into the girl's locker room.
268.Ich habe noch nie played hard to get.
269.Ich habe noch nie played strip poker
270.Ich habe noch nie played strip poker.
271.Ich habe noch nie played strip UNO.
272.Ich habe noch nie played voyeur.
273.Ich habe noch nie posted n*des of a partner online.
274.Ich habe noch nie posted n*des of an ex online.
275.Ich habe noch nie posted n*des of someone else online.
276.Ich habe noch nie purposely let my thong show to attract someone.
277.Ich habe noch nie put a finger in someone's bum.
278.Ich habe noch nie put my p*nis in a vacuum cleaner.
279.Ich habe noch nie read a romance novel.
280.Ich habe noch nie received a bl*wjob.
281.Ich habe noch nie received a booty-call.
282.Ich habe noch nie received a hand-job.
283.Ich habe noch nie received a noise complaint due to s*x.
284.Ich habe noch nie received anal s*x.
285.Ich habe noch nie received double penetration.
286.Ich habe noch nie received or given a foot job.
287.Ich habe noch nie refused to go down on someone due to hair.
288.Ich habe noch nie refused to go down on someone due to smell.
289.Ich habe noch nie rejected s*x for playing video games.
290.Ich habe noch nie rejected someone for a prom date.
291.Ich habe noch nie rejected someone who wanted to have s*x with me.
292.Ich habe noch nie role-played during s*x.
293.Ich habe noch nie rolled up a skirt to make it shorter.
294.Ich habe noch nie screamed during s*x.
295.Ich habe noch nie searched for someone's nude pictures online.
296.Ich habe noch nie seen a Playgirl.
297.Ich habe noch nie seen my parents naked.
298.Ich habe noch nie seen someone else naked in person.
299.Ich habe noch nie sent or received n*des.
300.Ich habe noch nie sent someone a s*xy selfie.
301.Ich habe noch nie shaved all my pubic hairs.
302.Ich habe noch nie shaved down there.
303.Ich habe noch nie shopped for a bra for a girlfriend.
304.Ich habe noch nie showered with someone of the opposite s*x.
305.Ich habe noch nie showered with someone of the same s*x.
306.Ich habe noch nie skipped a movie to make out in the parking lot instead.
307.Ich habe noch nie slept in the buff.
308.Ich habe noch nie slept with a classmate.
309.Ich habe noch nie slept with a coworker.
310.Ich habe noch nie slept with a stranger.
311.Ich habe noch nie slept with my boss to get a promotion.
312.Ich habe noch nie slept with my teacher to get a good grade.
313.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone because of a dare.
314.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone due to the number of social media followers they have.
315.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone for revenge.
316.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone older than me.
317.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone shorter than myself.
318.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone so that they would buy me things.
319.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone taller than myself.
320.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone who had also slept with a friend.
321.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone with blonde hair.
322.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone with brown hair.
323.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone with grey hair.
324.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone with red hair.
325.Ich habe noch nie slept with someone younger than me.
326.Ich habe noch nie slipped someone my phone number.
327.Ich habe noch nie smelled someone's used panty.
328.Ich habe noch nie spanked someone older than me.
329.Ich habe noch nie spoken about s*x with my parents.
330.Ich habe noch nie spoken dirty to my partner.
331.Ich habe noch nie stared at a guy's butt in jeans.
332.Ich habe noch nie stayed friends with an ex.
333.Ich habe noch nie stolen a condom from a friend.
334.Ich habe noch nie stripped for someone.
335.Ich habe noch nie struggled to find the g-spot.
336.Ich habe noch nie swallowed cum.
337.Ich habe noch nie taken a pregnancy test.
338.Ich habe noch nie taken a shower with a friend.
339.Ich habe noch nie taken n*des.
340.Ich habe noch nie taken pictures of a partner after s*x.
341.Ich habe noch nie taken pictures of a partner sleeping.
342.Ich habe noch nie taken someone's virginity.
343.Ich habe noch nie taken viagra.
344.Ich habe noch nie tasted cum.
345.Ich habe noch nie thought a friend's mom was hot.
346.Ich habe noch nie thought a girlfriend's mom was hotter than her.
347.Ich habe noch nie told someone they had tidy genitals.
348.Ich habe noch nie traded s*x for favors.
349.Ich habe noch nie tried a cheesy pick-up line on someone.
350.Ich habe noch nie tried bondage.
351.Ich habe noch nie tried cybers*x.
352.Ich habe noch nie tried fisting.
353.Ich habe noch nie tried more than five s*x positions.
354.Ich habe noch nie tried more than three s*x positions in one session.
355.Ich habe noch nie tried skinny dipping.
356.Ich habe noch nie tried the wheelbarrow s*x position.
357.Ich habe noch nie tried to booty-call.
358.Ich habe noch nie tried to cuddle with a one-night stand but got rejected.
359.Ich habe noch nie tried to use music to set the mood.
360.Ich habe noch nie tried using p*nis enlargement pills.
361.Ich habe noch nie urinated on another person.
362.Ich habe noch nie used a common household item as a dildo.
363.Ich habe noch nie used a dotted condom.
364.Ich habe noch nie used a flavored condom.
365.Ich habe noch nie used a glory hole.
366.Ich habe noch nie used a lame pick-up line on someone.
367.Ich habe noch nie used a mirror to look at my genitals.
368.Ich habe noch nie used a s*x toy on myself.
369.Ich habe noch nie used a s*x toy on someone else.
370.Ich habe noch nie used a vegetable as a s*x toy.
371.Ich habe noch nie used bondage.
372.Ich habe noch nie used edible underwear.
373.Ich habe noch nie used fruit while performing a s*xual act.
374.Ich habe noch nie used handcuffs during s*x.
375.Ich habe noch nie used lube.
376.Ich habe noch nie used my teeth during s*x.
377.Ich habe noch nie used someone else's s*x toy.
378.Ich habe noch nie visited a party just to hookup.
379.Ich habe noch nie walked in on my parents during s*x.
380.Ich habe noch nie wanted my girl to put her hair in pigtails.
381.Ich habe noch nie wanted to have s*x with someone playing this game right now.
382.Ich habe noch nie wanted to sleep with a friend's parent.
383.Ich habe noch nie watched 50 Shades of Grey.
384.Ich habe noch nie watched a movie because I knew it had nudity.
385.Ich habe noch nie watched Game of Thrones for the s*x scenes.
386.Ich habe noch nie watched Magic Mike.
387.Ich habe noch nie watched someone masturbate.
388.Ich habe noch nie went to prom date drunk.
389.Ich habe noch nie winked or whistled at someone.
390.Ich habe noch nie woken up next to a stranger.
391.Ich habe noch nie worn a buttplug and went out.
392.Ich habe noch nie worn a partner's underwear.
393.Ich habe noch nie worn a Speedo.
394.Ich habe noch nie worn heels taller than 4 inches.
395.Ich habe noch nie worn lingerie as clothing.
396.Ich habe noch nie worn the underwear of the opposite s*x.

Adult Play Tips

When This Set Works

Couples nights: Ideal for two couples who know each other well. Unexpected stories guaranteed.
Bachelor/bachelorette: Classic bachelorette party game. Pair with a scavenger hunt for extra chaos.
Close friend circles: Works with 4-6 people who trust each other. Above that it gets awkward fast.
18+ dating apps: Some couples use it as a conversation starter on video dates. Proceed with caution.

Adult Variations

Couples only: Each couple answers together. If either has done it, both drink or both lose a finger.
Strip round: For very close adult friends only - losing a finger means losing an article of clothing.
Confession mode: Anyone who has done the thing must explain in 30 seconds. No skipping.
Truth dare mashup: Combine with truth or dare - skipping a question means taking a dare from the group.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this category safe for work or family?

No. This set is strictly adults-only and explicit. Do not play it with coworkers, family members, or anyone under 18.

What is the minimum age to play?

This category is for adults aged 18 and older. Younger players should use our Teens or Normal categories.

Can I play this with my partner alone?

Yes - couples often use it as a conversation starter to discover things about each other they never thought to ask.

Are the questions too extreme?

Some are direct, some are silly. Everyone can pass on any question, no judgment. The rule is: only share what you are comfortable sharing.

Can I play this online over video?

Yes, but only with people you trust. Our video room feature is private and end-to-end via WebRTC, but use common sense about what you share on camera.

How do I add my own dirty questions?

Use the Add Questions page to save your own and share them with your partner or close friends via a private link.